SELF-GROWTH People are like rubber bands

The common denominator in Personal Growth, these days, is stretch, stretch, stretch!  Well, here we will look at the stretch factor in details.

As you go through life, crucial events will sometimes have you stretch and snap.  Then, it will take you months, sometimes years to mend and heal.  In some instances, the damage will be so ravaging that the person will never take a chance again, unless he/she take steps to overcome the damage done by breaking the silence and seeking help.

Take the instance of someone being battered to pulp until there is no courage, no spark left.  If the person survives, he/he may become overly cautious, avoiding any possibility of facing this ordeal again, yet sabotaging any possibility of pursuing challenging, explorative projects or relationship by fear of sustaining further injury.  Another will shy away from relationships and intimacy after a brutally hurtful separation.

Life’s experiences may provide positive growth when they are not massively extreme and damageable, otherwise they may well hamper your natural self-growth process leaving you with the bitter experience, as a solid barrier, stopping you from progressing. 

When you have encountered what can be called, the habitual life experiences, with its regular ups and down, your self-growth will progress at a regular pace.  Nevertheless, some trying occurrences will test you regularly.  You will encounter adversity.  We all do.

As we live on, some individuals will feel the pressing need to evolve more rapidly, depending on their character and personality.  They will pursue acquisition knowledge acquisition arduously, contemplate, choose a variety of reading to extend their cultural exposure, deepen personal interests, widen their critical skills by reflecting on present and past controversial issues, seek out visionary authors to challenge their wit and spirit.  These will demark themselves.  They will stretch the band to its maximum sooner, taking the time to integrate their newly acquired knowledge and experience.

Others will respond to shocking event with savage pursuits, challenging life’s every situation.  Some of these may not survive it.  In those that do, their extreme life style may be shortened or hampered by some harsh incident.

Most will have more intense experience in their youth, followed by moments of calm routine as a family is started and grows.  Some engage in self-growth at a more mature age when the emptiness of the nest presents a void that needs to be filled.

The important thing is to remember that you are like a rubber band!  Respect yourself, pursue what you wish, how you wish, and seek help when needed.  In this way, you will enrich your inner self and live a fulfilling life!

Happy Trails,

Elizabeth McNally, Mentor
Licensed Certified EI Coach
Compassion Fatigue Specialist
http://guidancequest.com